Who would you tell if you were a teenager, had sex and got pregnant?

Accept this is happening –you are not the first to have this happen!

Please get advice and support as quickly as you can, about what your choices might be and how to look after your mental and physical health.

It would be best to tell a parent or carer:  they may be upset or angry at first, but most parents would help you to make the best decisions and choices for you.

If you are in a relationship, then tell that person, they can offer help and support when you are talking to adults or health professionals.

Speak to a trusted adult - this maybe a teacher in your school or a favourite person in your family.

Speak to your doctors; they can support you to access the right medical services.

Search on the internet for young people's sexual advice services in your area. Make an appointment to see them; they are used to giving young people the right information and support to make an informed choice.

Why is it illegal to have sex with your family?

It is against the law to have sex with family members. Having sex with family members (interbreeding) decreases the "variety" in the DNA of offspring. When people with very similar genes have a baby, the baby gets two sets of very "similar" genes from both the parents. This can cause developmental problems or inherited diseases.

Where do you go if you are being groomed?

Tell a trusted adult straight away, they can offer you the right support to stay safe.

Speak to a teacher

Speak to a parent/carer or family member

Contact www.thinkyouknow.co.uk

Speak to the police they have specialist teams who can help you.

Tell someone  -  don't keep this to yourself.

If its 16 that you are able to consent what happens if two people do it but the girl is 15 and the guy is 16 but she completely agrees to it.?

Within the law you need to be 16 to have sex, however if two young people of a similar age are having sex and they have both consented it is unlikely that any police or legal action will be taken. However, if parents/carers become aware, they may want to have a discussion with both of you.  

Would you tell someone if you were a teenager and had sex?

No,  this should be between you and your partner, unless you need some help and support to discuss contraception, STI's managing your relationship, then you could access young person's sexual health clinic.

Lincolnshiresexualhealth.nhs.uk/young-person-clinics/

Or find a trusted adult to speak this may be a family member or teacher.

I'm asexual and don’t feel sexual attraction toward anyone-is that normal?

There is no normal state about who we are attracted to or not attracted to, it is a very individual thing.  Many people live their life very happily without ever having a sexual partner. There are many other ways to be intimate with a person and positive relationships can be as rewarding and fulfilling.

What happens if you have a baby before 16?

Finding out that you are pregnant at a young age can be really difficult. You need to get help and support as soon as possible to help you think about what choices you have.  

Many young women and their partners have faced this situation, so the best advice is to not face this massive life event all on your own.

It is really difficult to have a baby when you are under 16, as you are not entitled to any money, your parents or carers are expected to support you; this can put a real strain on families. You still have to continue in education until you are 18, so you have to study or work and look after a baby. When your friends are out partying you can't go, so your social life will be affected. This, in addition to what actually happens to your body, is a big change.

There are many services and organisations that can help you-see the signposting on this website.

Does it hurt? Everyone says there's skin to break and it really hurts?

Some women experience pain, for example, when a penis first penetrates the vagina, this usually stops quickly as you explore how you want to enjoy sex and pleasure with your chosen partner.

Take it slowly and sensitively: yet another reason to make sure you trust your partner and that you are in control of what you consent to.

If you have underage sex do you go on the sex offenders list?

No, the law is not there to criminalise young people who have sex underage; it is there to protect you. If you are underage and the person you are having sex with is older than you, over the legal age 16 and above, then there could be a case for them to go on the sex offenders list if charged, arrested and convicted of some type of sexual abuse or exploitation (which includes having sex with a minor-under the legal age of 16 in this country). This is more likely if there is a big age difference say 14 and partner is 25+ . 

Why is it important to learn about sex?

If young people have a chance to learn and discuss things around sex and sexual health they are more likely to wait until they are older to have an intimate relationship, use contraception and know how to keep themselves safe from exploitation. They are also much happier in their relationships and don’t regret waiting. 

Is it bad to get into a relationship with someone you have never seen before in real life?

This is a real risk as you only know what that person told you. It could all be lies, so you need to be really careful before arranging to meet someone you haven’t met in person before. It might feel exciting but can result in taking serious risks to you.

Will I get done for having sex if we are both 13?

No you wont get 'done' but you might want to think about who you share this information with. Also just because you have had sex once at 13, don’t feel you have to keep on having sex - you can stop at any point. Concentrate more on the positives in your relationship and talk to each other.

What is Chlamydia?

Chlamydia is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections (STIs) in the UK. It's passed on through unprotected sex (sex without a condom) and is particularly common in sexually active teenagers and young adults. Chlamydia can also be passed on the fingers during intimate touching. 

If you live in England, are under 25 and are sexually active, it's recommended that you get tested for chlamydia every year or when you change sexual partner. You can get free on line self-tests through the LISH website.

Unfortunately chlamydia can be silent-so no symptoms until you have a problem-it can also affect your ability to become pregnant.

Think about protecting your health by using condoms. 
 

What is the legal age for masturbation?

There is no legal age for masturbation but it is best to do this in the privacy of your own room! 

How do I apply for a C-Card?

There are several C-Card venues around the county. The pastoral staff in your school are also able to offer you C-Card information. To find out where your nearest C-Card registration place is go on :

Lincolnshiresexualhealth.nhs.uk/young-person-clinics

What is the meaning of life?

The meaning of life is whatever you want it to be. Try to stay positive and see the purpose of your life, value yourself and those around you. 

Is sex awkward?

Sex can be really awkward and embarrassing at first, but that’s ok as long as you both consent. Its ok to have a laugh and enjoy experimenting. 

What different positons are there?

There are hundreds of different positons to try when you feel ready to have a sexual relationship. 

Why isn't there a legal age restrictions on condoms?

There is no legal age for buying condoms but they might ask a few questions in the shop if a child wanted to buy them! Condoms are available at any age and free of charge from contraception clinics, CCard providers, sexual health clinics, further education colleges and young people's clinics.

Do you think its right that boys are judged on the size of their willy?

Not at all. It's not good to judge anyone on their physical appearance.

At what point are you considered frigid for not doing something?

Being frigid is a good thing. It means you are making choices and decisions over your own body and not being pressured by others to do something you are not ready to. 

The law on pornography, condoms and smoking should be changed because 18 seems too old

You can be part of changing the laws when you are older by learning about the political systems, how to vote and who to vote for. You could also start your own young people's campaign to raise awareness around this issue - become part of a youth council. 

How much is a box of condoms

A box of 12 condoms is around £10 but why pay for them when you can them for free from a young person's sexual health clinic?

How do you know what to do when you first have sex?

Not many people know exactly what to do the first time they have sex. It is easier if you have built up a relationship with someone. You can talk about what you both want and need. Make sure you both consent, take your time and enjoy it. It should be fun and pleasurable. Don’t worry if it doesn't work out first time. You can try again at another time or just wait. 

Is being in an online relationship bad?

It is fairly common to meet online, but if you're going to meet in person, it can be dangerous. If you are going to meet in person always tell someone else and meet in a public place. Be suspicious of an older person who wants to be friends with a teenager. Don’t accept lifts in cars and trust your instincts.  'Thinkyouknow' has loads of information for young people about meeting people online. 

What's the max size a girl can take?

Interesting question: So a penis that is 12cm in diameter and 18cm long is the max.

Is it wrong to want to be in a relationship with fictional character? Like a cartoon character?

Lots of people have fantasy relationships with fictional characters as long as you stay aware of what is fictional and what reality, it is all ok.  

What would happen if you had sex on period?

It would just be very messy! People have their own personal preferences about having sex whilst a woman is having a period-from 'no way' to 'that’s fine .' Of course without protection, such as a condom, there is still the possibility you could get pregnant or get an STI.

When you're at a legal age to have sex, how do you ask a partner if they want to do it as well without it being at the wrong time or being awkward?

No one is born sexually experienced. Most of the fun is learning. Talk to your partner. Ask what they like. Be aware of their feelings as well as your own pleasure. 

How do you find a girlfriend/boyfriend?

If you're looking for love and can't find it, work on developing other relationships. People who make and maintain close friendships learn valuable skills to apply next time around to a different kind of love. 

How common is bad contraception?

If you go to a GP or specialist sexual health clinic there should be no problems with contraception.  You can buy condoms on line but they don’t always meet British safety standards. There are lots of choices but only a condom gives you protection from STI's as well as preventing pregnancy.

What is it like?

You can decided if it is having sex or making love! This may include any activity that sexually arouses you and your partner. It's not just about penis and vagina and penetration. It might include talking and flirting, kissing, looking, touching, stroking each other, kissing using tongues, removing clothes, touching each other's genitals, or putting on a condom. Whatever your sexual orientation, you can have sex in all sorts of ways- there's no magic formula. 

Is it bad that someone might be curious about sex before 16?

No, it is pretty common that most young people are curious about sex, what it means, what happens, how it will feel. etc. 

If you masturbate will your vagina fall off?

No – your vagina won't fall off or out or anything else if you masturbate. 

Why do we get pubes?

Pubic hair certainly serves an important purpose, providing a cushion against friction that could cause skin abrasion and injury, protection from bacteria, and is the visible result of long awaited adolescent hormones – showing the changes to your body as you go through puberty.

When can you give a partner a hand job?

When you both are comfortable with each other, both consent and are in a private space. 

How would you know when you’ve met the right person?

It can be hard to know if you have met the right person. We are usually physically attracted to someone first, but when we get to know them, we might find out they may not be the right person for us. Take time to get know someone by talking to them, going out and doing fun things you both enjoy. Make sure you feel comfortable around them and never feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do. 

Do all relationships have to include some sort of trust?

It’s a good idea to be able to trust and RESPECT each other. No good relationship works without it. 

Can you wear two condoms to prevent pregnancy?

It's not a good idea to wear two condoms as this is more likely to cause them to split. The best way is to find out how to use one condom correctly!

Why do people think its funny to pressure someone into having sex?

Not sure why people would think this is funny! Don’t do anything you don’t want to and don’t pressure someone into doing something they don’t want to.  You might worry about upsetting the person your with but its better than doing something you might regret. 

What happens if it gets stuck?

"Penis captivus" is the medical term for when the penis is essentially held captive by the vagina during sexual intercourse. It gets stuck, but this is very, very rare and only last a few seconds.

What age are young people most likely to have sex and would they be in a relationship?

Not everybody is in a relationship when they have sex but most young people wait until they are over 16 and have got to know the other person a bit first.

If I visit a clinic do you have to alert a parent/carer.?

The staff at the clinic follow confidentiality policies and the Fraser guidelines to make a decision about if you are old enough to understand and give consent. Staff are very mindful about someone's maturity and if they need to share confidential information with other professionals (for example in the case of abuse or exploitation). They will always encourage you to talk your parents/carers but would rather make sure you have good quality information from a trusted professional and were safe, than cause problems between young people and parents. 

Why do female condoms exist?

Some females choose to use them as it gives them more control over their contraception choices and protects them from STIs.  

Why is there no legal age to have sex?

There is!  - it is 16 in this country.

What does a condom look like?

A condom is presented in a small foil packet and consists of a long, thin piece of latex tubing. If you look on the durex web page you can see pictures of the different types of condoms available. 

Is sex healthy?

As long as you are both of the right age and have consented to sex. This kind of connectedness does more than make you feel warm and fuzzy, it actually reduces anxiety and boosts your overall health.

What's clap?

Clap is another word for STIs . 

Do all relationships have abuse?

No relationship should have abuse in it. If you feel you are in an abusive relationship talk to a trusted adult, your GP or a friend.

What's the punishment for underage sex?

This depends on the age of the people involved, if you are of a similar age or there is a wide gap between ages. You could be charged with having sex with a minor (under 16 year old)  

Is masturbation a sin because being bisexual is a sin?

"Sin" is a concept that means different things for different religions and cultural or moral perspectives. There are LGBT people of all faiths and religions. The Bible does not mention masturbation. Many people of all genders enjoy masturbation to pleasure themselves and as a way to find out what they enjoy. There is no direct link between a particular sexuality, such as bisexuality, with masturbation. 

What is the best way to apply a condom?

The best way is to go to a C- Card venue or specialist young people's clinics and learn how to use a condom properly.

'Online Brook' have some really clear information for young people on how to use a condom.  www.brook.org.uk/your-life/condoms

How many eggs do women have in their bodies in order to have babies?

Females are born with about 1 million eggs. By the time of puberty, only about 300,000 remain. Not all of these will develop or be released.

Is it ok to have sex at 13?

The law states you should be 16 or over to have sex, even though some young people have sex before 16 we know that most wait until they are over 16